This is the time of year that we see friends, old acquaintances, and new people.
Friends are those we have connected with in the past. Old acquaintances are those that we crossed paths with sometimes in the far past, and new people are just that, new to us.
Friends can be from the distant path like ones my wife and I have from High School back in the mid to late 60’s. Yes I am that old.
Old acquaintances are those of any time frame that we met but did not click with as friends. Could be age difference or just not able or willing to connect. No harm.
New to us are those that we cross paths with professionally or in voluntary acts or even through casual encounters.
I am leaving out the required meetings with medicals seen often and connected with. They are a special group for another Blog Post….soon.
Each of these have a common thread; Us the individual. We choose either consciously or unconsciously to create a thread of commonality, a connection of sorts between us and them.
There is an amazing thread for all these connections. The desire to be understood and cared for. This is what inherently makes us who we are.
I have seen this with kids that act out or are always in trouble. Often in their home life the only time they get attention is when they get yelled at. So in school they act out to get the attention they crave.
The same applies for adults. Needed attention is sought in the way that works. Type of attention doesn’t matter
Now during Holidays we all need attention. Love of family is sought in various ways. Traditions created long ago when either we or they were young. New traditions created along the way. Just plain different gatherings and dinners with special foods.
Friends join in with remembrances and shared memories of other holidays. As we get older memories of those lost in time. Our long time friends have lost their parents as have we. Father and mother actions and sayings rambled out and shared are fun and nice to hear.
Acquaintances bring in their own special tone. Often similar to family but often very different. Change is good and refreshing. Differences can be celebrated.
New people also offer special things and often chaotic interactions.
We need to remember one thing: December Holidays are very special. A celebration of life and the ending and beginning at midnight of what we wanted and what we hoped for.
So let me say Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!
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